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“Boa Noite, Cinderela”

There is something darkly sinister about the Portuguese phrase “Boa Noite, Cinderela.” It sounds like something an evil witch in disguise would say to an innocent Disney princess before feeding her a poisonous treat.  In Brazil, it describes the phenomenon of drugging victims in bars to later assault or rob them.

Outside of Latin America, mostly women are targeted with this type of crime, and sexual assault is usually part of the equation.  South of the Equator, gay men are often the prey.  The predators may also be gay, or they may be heterosexual.  Assailants only need to act gay long enough to befriend and flirt with a single gay man before slipping a drug into his drink.

The substance itself could be an existing party drug which creates the desired effect (Special K, GHB, or Rohypnol.)  Or, it could be scopolomine, a particularly scary drug with the abilities to subdue victims, make them compliant in their own robbery, and leave them with memory loss.

The goal is almost always robbery, and the story almost always ends with the victim awakening hours, sometime even days, later with no memory of what happened after they met their attacker.

Recently, the crime has entered the digital age with an assailant using Grindr to pick up, drug, and rob gay men in Sao Paulo.

The tips to staying safe are obvious, but worth sharing:

  • don’t accept drinks from strangers
  • keep your eye on your drinks (bottles and cans with smaller openings are more difficult to slip a drug into)
  • take your drink with you (to the dance floor, or the men’s room)
  • if you do take your eye off your drink, just dispose of it and order a fresh one
  • use the buddy system (or, set up a check-in with someone if you go out alone)
  • don’t party too hard if you do go out alone; it’s hard to tell the sensation of a knockout drug kicking in if you’ve already had ten caipirinhas
  • take only what you need for that night in your wallet
  • if traveling, make sure your room key is unidentifiable (trash the little envelope labeled “Copacabana Palace, Room #318”)
  • In 2025, a related problem of methanol poisoning became a major fear across Brazil, but this was not a crime of spiked drinks, but alcoholic beverages being contaminated at production facilities.

One final tip is to share your story if you have been victimized.  When attacks have happened in the gay bars of Sao Paulo, victims and their friends have taken to Facebook to post warnings and even distribute surveillance camera images of their attackers.

Travel Deals for 2020

Have you realized a new decade is coming?  Now is the perfect time to plan your travel for 2020!  Here is the VamosGay shortlist of websites with the best travel deals.

Flight Deals & Vacation Packages

Expedia.com – Pretty good for flights, but highly recommended for packages deals.  You may find lower rates if you search hard enough on other sites, but when buying an entire package, Expedia customer support is the strong arm you may need to change or cancel an expensive flight and hotel combo.

Iberia Airlines – European carrier with many cheap flights to South America.  Add them to your list of sites to search and you’ll be surprised.

TAM / LAN Airlines – The merged juggernaut of South American carriers (now known as LATAM) offers many direct deals.

Skyscanner  ★ Editor’s Choice: Lowest Airfares
This site can be simple if you are just looking for the lowest price, but also lets users dig in and compare prices across airline companies and departure dates.  SkyScanner.com is great place to squeeze out the lowest price not just for Latin America, but across the globe.

Cheapflights.com – The name says it all.  If it doesn’t have the lowest price for an international flight, it will definitely link to it.

Where to Stay

Booking.com – Highly-recommended one-stop shopping for hotels.  Consistently low-prices and the option to book without pre-paying makes this a favorite.

AirBnB – Fabulous places to stay across the globe with large number of gay men.  If you’ve never stayed with AirBnB before, start browsing and get a discount.

VRBO – A serious AirBnB competitor that is worth checking out.  Over the years, VRBO has been luring properties away from other platforms and has a great portfolio of places to stay around the world.  Search VRBO.com now and see what’s available.

Getting Around with Uber

Taxis in Latin America don’t have the best reputation.  Uber provides a safe and easy option for club hopping or just getting to the airport.  Click any of these links for Buenos Aires, Mexico City, Montevideo, Rio de Janeiro, Santiago, and Sao Paulo.  (Use the discount code ubervamosgay for a lower rate.)

Tour Guides

Viator Rio de Janeiro – Need a personal tour guide you can trust to show you the best of gay Rio de Janeiro? We recommend Viator’s Guided Tour of Rio de Janeiro’s gay nightlife.

Gay Guide to Santiago Chile

In 2015, Chile legalized same-sex civil unions lifting the nation one step higher on the list of gay travel destinations.  Chile’s energetic capital city Santiago has been the epicenter for the country’s flourishing gay culture with a multitude of hotelsrestaurants, bars, and adults-only places to visit.

This guide to gay Santiago has a particular focus on the Bellavista neighborhood, the heart of the city which lies between the Mapocho River and San Cristóbal Hill.  Bellavista is known as Santiago’s bohemian quarter, with new hip restaurants, boutiques, and avant-garde galleries occupying loft spaces and lordly mansions that punctuate tree-lined streets awash with colorful antique homes. Many of the city’s esteemed intellectuals and artists live in Bellavista, following in the footsteps of its most famous denizen, Pablo Neruda.

In the evening, Bellavista pulses to the beat of music pouring from its many discos and bars. Gay nightlife is easy to find on the colorful Bombero Núñez street.  On weekends, there is an evening handicrafts market that runs the length of Pío Nono. The area is served by the Baquedano Metro subway station, located just across the river.  (Try our Google map of gay Santiago to help navigate the city.)

Update for the VamosGay 2020 Guide to Santiago
Last year, Chile and a number of other countries were rocked by protests and civil unrest.  In October 2019, the capital city Santiago became ground zero for the Chilean protests.  Santiago is still one of the top LGBT-friendly destinations and social life continues despite the protests near major landmarks.  But, check international news reports and be aware of the situation.

Bars & Clubs

A to Z listing of every bar, lounge, and club.

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Hotels

Gay-friendly places to stay in Santiago.

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Restaurants & Cafes

Meals to remember, or just a late night snack.

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Sex & Saunas

An up-to-date list of Santiago’s hottest spots.

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Gay Saunas, Cinemas, and Sex Shops of Santiago Chile

Following the collapse of its military dictatorship (1973 – 1990) Chile has steadily made strides towards a more progressive society. Sex between partners of the same sex became legal in 1998.  And, on October 22, 2015, Chile recognized same-sex civil unions.

Lke most big cities in Latin America, Santiago has many gay bars and clubs.  For those looking for something extra, here is a list of the most active gay-friendly sex shops, cinemas, and saunas in the city.   Continue reading Gay Saunas, Cinemas, and Sex Shops of Santiago Chile

Hotels & Places to Stay in Gay-Friendly Santiago Chile

For the party boy who just needs a place to crash close to the nearest gay club, to cultured traveler looking for a boutique hotel, Santiago has something for everyone.  The following short list of gay-friendly places to stay are mostly in Bellavista, the cultural heart of the city with easy access to both museums, restaurants, and nightlife.

The Aubrey

Luxurious boutique hotel in a converted mansion in city’s cultural center, Bellavista.  Each of the rooms at the Aubrey is individually decorated with stylish bathrooms.

The Aubrey has a heated outdoor swimming pool with 3 massage jets and an integrated jacuzzi. There’s an indoor/outdoor bar with poolside service.

A complimentary Brazilian breakfast is served each morning

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Hotel Luciano K

One of our Editor’s personal favorites, the Luciano K is stylish, yet comfortable, art deco, yet contemporary.  Not easy to describe but hard to resist falling in love with.  Check the link for a full list of amenities and photo galleries.

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Dominica Hostel

Set in an elegant house with comfortable common areas, Dominica Hostel is a short walk from poet Pablo Neruda’s house. Rooms are private with shared bathrooms.  Dominica Hostel is a great low-budget option to stay in Bellavista.

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Hotel Boutique Tremo

Beautiful four-story colonial house in Bellavista with modern design and amenities.  Plan your day over breakfast in the courtyard with the help of friendly and helpful staff.  Gay friendly, too!

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Hotel Patio Yungay

Reviews are almost 100% positive for this bed-and-breakfast located in Bellavista, but a few blocks away from the noisy ground zero of the city’s nightlife.  Click below for a photo gallery and more info on Hotel Patio Yungay.

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Mister BnB

Stay with gay locals while you explore the city.  Several great apartments in Santiago are now available.  Click below to start your search.

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Mito Casa Hotel Boutique

In an Art-Deco style building with a rooftop terrace overlooking Providencia, Mito Casa Hotel offers elegantly decorated rooms with hardwood floors. All of rooms feature minibars and heating. A buffet breakfast is served daily in a charming breakfast room.  Free bikes can be requested to explore the city. Guests can also unwind in the terrace, enjoying scenic views of Santiago. Bars and restaurants in trendy Bellavista are around the corner.

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SCL Suites

True apartment-style living.  This is a great choice if you all of the amenities of your own one bedroom apartment.  There’s a full kitchen, a living area with stylishly modern furnishings, and even a small balcony.  One issue is noisy neighbors on the weekends, but if you are out partying until the crack of dawn yourself, it’s not an issue.  There is a front gate, but no hotel-style front desk with English speakers.

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W Santiago

Stylish and sophisticated, the 5-star W Santiago offers a roof-top swimming pool and luxury guest rooms. The hotel is centrally located, with panoramic views of the Andes Mountains.  The W Santiago also hosts the hip gay-friendly part Lobo.

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For a complete list of hotels and apartments in Santiago, visit Booking.com for the lowest prices.

Bars and Clubs of Gay Santiago

Nightlife explodes on the weekends in Santiago, so make sure you are well rested.  Luckily, bar crawling is quite easy if you stay in the “gayborhood” of Bellavista.  (Check out our guide for gay-friendly hotels and places to stay in Santiago for the best options.) Many of the bars and clubs are on Bombero Núñez, a street which shines with colorful graffiti by day, and colorful Chilenos by night. Continue reading Bars and Clubs of Gay Santiago